John's Eulogy, by Jim, Ian and Helen
2016 April 22
Created by Ian 8 years ago
Dad worked hard all of his life. He travelled the
world with his job, and always remembered to bring back presents for the three
of us, even though he didn't have much money.
He loved motorbikes. Family legend has it that, in his
younger days, he was known as ‘Throttle Happy Jack’ – a revelation which came
as both a huge surprise and a delight to us who saw him as an unimpeachably proper, and sometimes stern, authority figure…
He loved music, especially jazz, from Bix Beiderbecke, Dave
Brubeck, Billie Holiday, Duke Ellington, Frank Sinatra, to Ry Cooder, Buena
Vista Social Club, Blazing Fiddles: and classical guitar, most particularly John
Williams and Julian Bream. (The choices of music before and after this service
are a nod to that passion.)
He supported charities whenever he could, especially
Practical Action. It was also clear that he had become more and more concerned
for his fellow man and got particularly upset when social injustices raised
their ugly head - something that seems to be more prevalent in the world today. A trait which manifests itself in the wider family! I found this passage
from the book of Ecclesiasticus in his bedside table:
‘My child, do not cheat the poor of their living, and do not
keep needy eyes waiting. Do not grieve the hungry, or anger one in
need. Do not add to the troubles of the desperate, or delay giving to the
needy. Do not reject a suppliant in distress, or turn your face away from
the poor.’
He
became very political in his old age, I think in direct proportion to the time
he was able to spend reading the news.
He had the driest sense of humour. He loved the classic
cartoons such as Bugs Bunny and Tom and Jerry.
He used to read books from the back page first.
.He was a wiz with computers.
He adored Mum.
He was unassuming, always believing that it was for people
(including his kids!) to make their own choices in life. He could get a
bit rattled living in a small house with 3 children though!
He loved flying, both at work and play: his hobby – well,
hobby barely seems an adequate word - was gliding, and it’s certain that the
skills he showed as a pilot and instructor informed his work, and vice versa.
He was lucky to have loved his work especially – and, through sticking to it
rather than pursuing the immediate attractions of promotion and higher income, to become
one of the most accomplished and highly regarded engineers in his field. That
regard has been expressed by so many of the tributes from his former colleagues
in recent weeks.
To this day his writings are considered authoritative texts
on his area, and his contribution to the technical journals would form a small
library in their own right. He was, in his own quiet way, something of an
iconoclast in his world, and wasn't necessarily always gentle with those he
felt were lazily accepting received wisdoms – the ‘myths’ of aeronautics that
were one of his sure bugbears. But to an enquiring mind, he was unstintingly
generous with his knowledge and time. It was something he thoroughly enjoyed
and he was still involved in various advanced projects up to the end.
He was proud of his Scottish heritage and proud of his
family, and a prolific photographer of us all in his early years. He had
been getting physically frail in the last few years but we take a lot of
comfort from the fact that he was mentally active, working on projects that
interested him, and maintained his independence until his final brief illness.
He spent his time pursuing his passion to the very highest levels (pardon the
pun!), and we don't think you can ask for a lot more in life than that.
The nurse who found him on the morning that he died reported
that he had a smile on his face. His twin brother, Douglas, has a theory about
this: in their young days, John had to be first in everything, be it going
through a door or attaining some mark of achievement. It seems old habits die
hard, and this final success might have given him a small bit of satisfaction…